what one private session taught me about control

on softening, holding space, and trusting the process

I was guiding a private session as part of my somatic coaching work —
just a simple breath practice.

Nothing fancy — just inhale, exhale, feel.
And halfway through, they cried.

“I didn’t know I was holding so much,” they whispered. Neither did I.

The body doesn’t always need to be moved.
Sometimes it just needs permission to feel.

This is what space — holding means to me.
Not leading someone somewhere. But walking beside them while they remember they already know the way.

Control is loud.
Trust is quiet.

try this:

Next time you feel the urge to fix or perform — pause.
Ask: can I be with this, without changing it?